There are (unfortunately) lots of ways to turn people off, both online and in person.In fact, people can get turned off within seconds of meeting you, virtually or IRL.Some of those turn-offs, listed below, include having too many Facebook friends and acting too nice.There are plenty of ways to turn people off.In fact, most of them don't require much effort. Sometimes, all it takes is one look at your social media activity (so many pictures of your baby niece!) or acasual in-person introduction (did you really need to mention that one time you almost met Beyonc').We've rounded up some of the most common social turn-offs, online and in person, as well as how to avoid them. Read on and see which ones you've been guilty of.SEE ALSO:14 habits of the most likable peopleSharing too many photos on FacebookIf you're the kind of person who shares snapshots of your honeymoon, cousin's graduation, and dog dressed in a Halloween costume all in the same day, you might want to stop.A 2013 studyfoundthat posting too many photos on Facebook can hurt your real-life relationships."This is because people, other than very close friends and relatives, don't seem to relate well to those who constantly share photos of themselves," lead study author David Houghton, of Birmingham Business School,said in a release.Specifically, friends don't like it when you've got too many photos of family, and relatives don't like it when you've got too many photos of friends.Ben Marder, of the University of Edinburgh, also worked on the study,and warned: "Be cautious when sharing and think how it will be perceived by all the others who may see it. Although sharing is a great way to better relationships, it can also damage them."Having too many or too few Facebook friendsIn a 2008 study, Michigan State University researchers asked college students to look at fictional Facebook profiles and decide how much they liked the profiles' owners.Results showed that the "sweet spot" for likability was about 300 friends. Likability ratings were lowest when a profile owner had only about 100 friends, and almost as low when they had more than 300 friends.As for why 300-plus friends could be a turn-off, the study authors write, "Individuals with too many friends may appear to be focusing too much on Facebook, friending out of desperation rather than popularity."On the other hand, the college students doing the evaluation each had about 300 Facebook friends themselves. So the researchers acknowledge that in a population where the most common number of Facebook friends is 1,000, the sweet spot for likability could be 1,000.Keep in mind, though, thata 2014 survey foundthat the average number of Facebook friends among adult users was 338.Interestingly, the study also suggested that participants weren't consciously aware that they liked people less when they had too many or too few Facebook friends.Disclosing something extremely personal early on in a relationshipIn general, people like each other more after they've traded confidences. Self-disclosure is one of the best ways tomake friends as an adult.But psychologists say that disclosingsomethingtoointimate say, that your sister is having an extramarital affairwhile you're still getting to know someone can make you seem insecure and decrease your likability.The key is to get just the right amount of personal. Asa 2013 studyled by Susan Sprecher at Illinois State University suggests, simply sharing details about your hobbies and your favorite childhood memories can make you seem warmer and more likable.See the rest of the story at Business Insider
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