Last nights episode of Saturday Night Live was must-see TV for a number of reasons: The Grim Reaper was tapped to play Steve Bannon, Melissa McCarthy showed up and delivered a blistering, pitch-perfect portrayal of White House press secretary Sean Spicer, and host Kristen Stewart said the F-word on live TV during her monologue.But there was another equally remarkable, though admittedly quieter, moment in the first five minutes of the show that you might have missed: Stewart, for the first time ever, publicly used the word gay in reference to herself (see the above video at the 2:26 mark).Stewarts sexual identity has been the subject of rumors for years. Its difficult to avoid speculation about your private life when youre not just famous but also one-half of one of the most famous couples in the world, as Stewart was when she dated Twilight co-star Robert Pattinson for several years. But even after that relationship ended, Stewart was still dogged by the press thanks to her involvement with a number of queer women in the entertainment industry, including Alicia Cargile,singerAnnie Clark, who is better known as St. Vincent, and the woman shescurrently dating, model Stella Maxwell.To her credit, Stewart wasnt exactly secretive about her relationships. In a 2016 interview with Elle UK, the actress used the word girlfriend to refer to Cargile, her partner at the time. She also said that dating a girl forced her to be more open about her relationships than she was when she was dating a guy. To hide this provides the implication that Im not down with it or Im ashamed of it, so I had to alter how I approached being in public, she said, adding, It opened my life up and Im so much happier.But for all of her candor, Stewart had never used the word gay ' or any other label ' to identify herself until last night. And really, thats fine. In fact, its very much on trend with how other young people think about their sexuality. A 2016 survey found that 35 percent of millennials identify as something other than exclusively heterosexual (and a whopping 52 percent of individuals between the ages of 13 and 20 reported the same) but didnt necessarily use a term like gay or bisexual or lesbian in reference to themselves.Many people find these labels to be less necessary than they once were. As queer people become more and more integrated into mainstream society, thanks to changing cultural norms triggered by things like marriage equality and higher visibility in the media, many feel less of a need to identify as any one thing ' or to talk about it in any kind of public way, like asplashy tell-all interview. But labels can still be hugely useful, not only for individuals to orient themselves within a community, but also as a way to continue to increase that aforementioned visibility and push the LGBTQ movement forward, especially in times of political and cultural uncertainty, like now.When one of the biggest movie stars of the last 10 years refers to herself as so gay on one of the most-watched late-night television shows on the air, it forces people to reconfigure how they think about what it means to be gay and who and what that term includes. Suddenly, anyone who only knew Stewart as that girl from Twilight and Robert Pattinsons ex girlfriend, is confronted by her sexuality in a new and startling way, and it upends assumptions about the community, which is exactly why coming out is still so crucial.It should be noted that Stewarts so gay comment was made in reference to ridiculous tweets President Donald Trump once sent about her relationship with Pattinson:Robert Pattinson should not take back Kristen Stewart. She cheated on him like a dog & will do it again--just watch. He can do much better! Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) October 17, 2012 And, yes, the phrase was delivered with more than a hint of sarcasm and a certain degree of exasperation, which seemed to be leveled at Trump but also maybe at the worlds obsession with her sexuality. And thats fair. It cant be fun having your every move photographed and dissected. But in an era when LGBTQ rights are currently at risk in new and frightening ways,public acts of solidarity with the community, including coming out, are more important than ever.It should also be noted that Stewarts so gay comment doesnt necessarily mean that she literally identifies as gay. She did date Pattinson, someone who, as far as we know, identifies as male, which may mean she identifies as bisexual or pansexual or sexually fluid or in some other way than gay, which is traditionally thought of as being sexually attracted to someone of the same gender. Perhaps she chose that phrase because it packed the most punch and would be the most instantly recognizable to those watching the show ' and because its probably the term most people have used behind her back ever since she started dating women. But she also may have decided at this point in her life that its the term that feels the most appropriate. We just dont know.Regardless, I had to catch my breath when I heard her say it last night. Im proud of Stewart for standing up and joining the community in a way she hadnt before, especially at a time when our community is hurting and scared. Coming out doesnt happen just once and its rarely easy. Because heterosexuality is still the assumed default orientation in our society, every time a queer person meets someone new, theres the chance theyll be required to explain who they truly are, and in that moment exists the radical opportunity to challenge and change minds. Last night I believe Stewart probably did both, and I think were all a little bit better off because of it. -- This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.
Click here to read full news..
